Getting your first “real job” is a huge milestone in every one of us lives. We are taught that we have to study hard, so we can get a good job and live a good life. But what a good job and life mean is debatable.
We hear everyone (or almost everyone) complaining about their jobs; how unsatisfying it is, how the environment is horrible and so on. And because is in our nature to complain a lot, we think that we have to adopt this negative attitude about our job because everyone else does and if we don’t complain to prove that our situation is even worst, then we won’t “fit”. It’s a competition. If someone complains about something, you have to complain back and show that your problem is bigger. It’s just courtesy nowadays.
I am inclined to believe that we “inherit” this negative attitude towards jobs from our parents. I usually hear older generations complaining about their jobs. I heard my parents complaining about their jobs when I was a kid so I thought this is how it is supposed to be.
If you’re trying to get into the labour market as a freshly graduated individual, please don’t let yourself influences by these so common cliches about jobs.
1. Your job will suck and you have to hate it
This is the most common complain I usually hear. “I hate my job, but one has to eat.”
I guess people don’t know exactly the difference between hating and disliking. Hating your job will – eventually – leave you totally empty. You will most probably get depressed and your productivity will inevitably decrease. But we feel that we should say loud and clear how much we hate our job so we can avoid the “What’s wrong with you?!” look from people when you tell them that you actually like your job.
If you are just starting, you can accept a couple of jobs that aren’t as great, so you can have a starting point. But that doesn’t mean you will always hate your job.
Another detail that I was facing as a teenager is the lack of career counselling. I let myself influences a lot by my parents when it came to choosing a career path. Luckily, I figured it out when it wasn’t too late. Honestly, I think there is never too late to take a career shift if you feel so.
2. Bosses are meant to be assholes
Similar to the one above, you have to hate your boss. If you don’t hate him, then… what’s wrong with you?!
People are different. Some people are naturals when it comes to leading people, while others… well, let’s say that they are not good at leading people.
I’ve had horrible bosses and amazing bosses. Both types definitely exist. Don’t start with the misconception that your boss will be a total ass hole and will make your life a living hell. He or she might be a horrible, ok or great leader. Wait and see.
3. You’ll turn into a slave
As a millennial, I find the 9-to-5 system uncomfortable and very outdated. I don’t like that I spend almost the entire day when I can finish my things in less than 8 hours. We’re not working only in factories anymore; jobs have changed a lot in the last 20-30 years.
I managed to find some good things about the 9-to-5 working schedule though:
- the routine – although the brain hates it, the body loves it. I get to have regular meals, fall asleep at pretty much the same hour and so on;
- the team members – if you are lucky enough to be part of a really cool team with amazing people, it will be nice to spend time surrounded by fun and intelligent people;
- learning opportunities – being surrounded by other people gives you the amazing opportunity to learn new things from them; it’s a really good way to build your knowledge;
4. It is boring
Some days will be better than the others. Some will be long and boring, some will be crazy and some will be just regular working days.
What would truly be boring, it would be if all days will be exactly the same, don’t you think?
5. Everyone around you is crazy or stupid
A lot of people are complaining about their co-workers; that they are crazy, stupid or lazy.
There is some truth to this though. Each team has a team member that is maybe a little bit odd or that doesn’t fit too well with the group. We are all different and it’s totally normal to not like everyone. But that doesn’t mean that everyone is an idiot.
It’s impossible to have everyone against you or to have everyone not liking you.
Don’t let these old-fashioned cliches about labour market let you down in your way to your dream career. They do hold some truth, but in the end is up to you which side of the coin you pick.