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Celebrating International Women’s Day: Is Still a Struggle To Be a Woman Nowadays?

I remember when I was a kid and the 8th of March was coming: flowers and tiny gifts everywhere. Here we grow up with the concept of also celebrating Mother’s Day on the 8th of March. So probably for most Eastern Europeans, the 8th of March symbolises Mother’s Day more than Women’s Day.

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Anyway, being a girl and growing up I had to face a lot of stupid cliches about women like:

  • you’re place should be in the kitchen – go and make me a sandwich;
  • women are not able to protect yourselves, you need a macho man for this;
  • you’re a woman who doesn’t know how to cook or sew?! What kind of woman are you?
  • assuming that if your Mum is a self-made doctor, engineering and chef, this is how everygirl should be. Your Mum is multi skilled because she had you and she learnt all those things to make it easier and to keep you safe;
  • you’re not good at video games;
  • girls can’t code;
  • you’re emotional unstable because hormones go crazy in your body once per month;

… and the list could be infinite.

I should begin by expressing my gratitude for my parents who never limited me in any way just because “you are a girl”. They were “warning” me that something might be more appropriate for boys, but never forbidden me to do it. And to be honest, I always has a tomboy part inside of me.

The ugly truth is that is still a struggle to be a woman. And I think it will be for a long time. Women are still paid less than men (in some cases), they give birth, they bleed every month and in some countries they have no rights.

On the opposite side, there are the career gals, who are successful, admirable women who make it happen. But isn’t it too much? I mean, with all the pressure the society puts upon our shoulders (men included)? You must have a successful carrer, have a house, a car, graduate with honorous, have kids, be a role model for them and for the society and so on. Because if you don’t follow the rules and if you don’t “fit” you will be judged and criticised. No one likes this, so we struggle to do our best and “fit”.

Last, but not least, let’s not forget about men. I’ve seen a lot of amazing guys supporting their wives or girlfriends achieving their goals and following their dreams. Because of this kind of guys, you make us be amazing.

All in all being a woman is amazing and it will always have its struggles. I guess guys have their own struggles too, in a way.


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  • Galatians513

    Great perspective for a beautiful day of celebrating women. I’ve personally never felt the struggle, but I know many do.

  • Candy Kage

    Men and women both have their own struggles but in different ways. Women are much harder and are really not supportive of each other. If your SAHM your sold out, if you work and have kids not good enough, Married should be single, single should be married, no kids, too many kids. Educated look down on those who aren’t Gets exhausting.

  • Bianca Sasha

    I think being a woman still bears struggle. especially if you are a woman of colour; with that said, the conversation about inclusion and the new face of feminism is turning the tide!

  • Carlie Dreux Rice

    Aw I loved this post. I think this day is so important and it’s so necessary to look back and be smart and honest about what it means to be a woman today. Thank you!

  • Robin

    I was thinking about this a lot today. I chose to go to work instead of joining the strike because that’s what resonated with me–I’ve fought to have the career that I love, and am lucky to work for a company that’s incredibly progressive and egalitarian. But I wore red and spent the afternoon volunteering with my coworkers at a charity that serves families instead of working, which was my way of showing solidarity with women around the world. Things still aren’t equal–and while women and men have their own strengths and struggles, there are still ways to treat us equally, and I hope that our generation continues to fight for that around the world. Happy women’s day!

    • What a beautiful way of celebrating this day! Congrats for the initiative, Robin!

  • Sondra Barker

    Women have come a long way and it is beautiful to celebrate a day alongside so many amazing women. The fight for equality is still not over.

  • Awesome thoughts. My hubby is thankfully in the supportive man category – he has never done anything BUT wildly support my dreams and ambitions, which I lovelovelove!

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  • I love that you looked at both sides of this and commended the good men out there. There are awesome men, awesome moms, and awesome business women to look up to and there are struggles and joys for each of those people. Honestly, I’ve never really had any problems or injustices happen to me because of being a woman. I know others have and I always want to fight for true equality, but I also want to praise good men and acknowledge that they have struggles too.

  • Christine Goulbourne

    This is certainly a thought provoking post. My personal experience is that there is a prevalent struggle and the disparity in gender and cultural issues is also clear. We’ve come a long way from exclusively being the married young, stay at home mom. But, we’re not where we should be yet.